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Hello.

I'm an 18 year old girl living in Europe. Me and my boyfriend have been together over 2 years now, meeting only once a year because he lives all the way in canada. We were both saving up so that I could start living with him once I have finished my education, however, that has all turned around now.

At his working location there was this costumer that needed to borrow money, at first my boyfriend thought he meant borrowing from the shop... Turned out he needed to borrow from my boyfriend. Just $200, so that wouldn't be too much of a loss. The man, called peter, came back happily the next day with a cheque of $500. However the next day he needed money again, this time a much larger amount. The man had lost his wife, his cell phone and his money. My boyfriend, being a naturally good person, gave him the money again. The man paid back happily once again, but now it becomes scary.

Peter forces him to drive around, pay for  peter in restaurants. All because Peter says he has to pay him something (which is true when you see that the guy pays him like $1,500 for the $1,000 he borrowed). In this process, my boyfriend lost $7,000... Because when the weekend was over, the cheques did apparently not come through.

I had no idea this was happening, I did not know of the existance of uncovered cheques and I thought my boyfriend was being paid in real money. The worst thing is, that the scammer did not just stop there, he kept on bugging my boyfriend with depressing stories for about 2 months! Also friends of Peter were stalking him.

Yes, he did get the police involved and they are looking for the men that scammed him out of all his savings. He has only just graduated from College and was looking for a good job while working in a convenience store for the mean time... Now he will have to stay at the convenience store. But the manager of the store was mad with him because Peter stalked him at work, so they moved him to a location which is a 40 minutes drive, rather than 2 minutes!

He can't pay for gas, any of his bills.. Because Peter brought him into the red numbers at the bank. His family helped him a little bit by donating to the problem to pay for the bills, but nothing more than that. 

I feel so helpless over here. I'm not making enough myself to support him, going to school full time. I can see he is rather depressed over the situation and I'm asking myself if I should still come over to see him this summer (because that would take him from his job, resulting in him earning less money).

I just wanted to get this off my chest...

-Mumbling

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Schmidty
Just a thought, since you spend so much time with your boyfriend, I'm being sarcastic, but something to think about.Are you sure that your 'boyfiend' isn't playing you like he says Peter has done him?
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goodnewsforyou

You are too young to get so seriously involved with someone. Focus on getting a good professional education.

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KINDNESS.OF.THE.HEART
 in response to Mumbling...   ur very welcome
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Mumbling
 in response to KINDNESS.OF.THE.HEART...   Thank you, that's very kind.
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KINDNESS.OF.THE.HEART

TERRIBLE AT WHAT SOME SELFISH PEOPLE DO TO THOSE WHO HELP THEM, I PRAY YOUR BF'S FINANCES GET BETTER

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Anonymous
 in response to Mumbling...   thank you that was cute made me smile
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Mumbling
 in response to bonniehayes...   That sounds like a good idea, though I'd be a bit lonely if I only struggle with myself hehe. thank you for your comment.
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Anonymous

WHEN TWO PEOPLE LOVE EACH OTHER YOU DO WHAT YOU NEED TO TO SERVIVE.I FEEL THE BEST WE CAN DO IS JUST THAT.THE BEST WE CAN.WORK ON YOURSELVES TAKE THE TIME TO GET YOUR STUFF TOGETHER WHILE HE GETS HIS TOGETHER. IF YOU FOCUS ON YOU AND HIM IT WILL BE ALOT HARDER.YOU STRUGGLE WHERE YOU ARE AND HIM WHERE HE IS IN THE END IT WILL ALL COME TOGETHER.

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Mumbling

No, no... I meant saw him twice in real life, for a total period of 3 months. I have seen him crying and suffering like this. He is not a person to scam, believe me there.

Next to that, he does not ask me for money. He even rejected the money I offered when he really needed it. I am the one feeling hopeless here, but he does not ask me to do such a thing.The police is already after peter, with no result so far...

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positive thoughts

Yeap. I agree with whoknew. Your boyfriend is scamming. I'm a canadian too and I have to say shame on him. It is possiable however he could have been scammed but he's the one that fell for it. Was this Peter guy his friend. I hope the police do catch him. As for Peter stalking your boyfriend could have charged him for stalking. The police would have caught Peter than. This does not really make sense to me. My daughter was scammed by her exboyfriend too. But that was for 500 dollars she thought she bought a computer off him and the computer never came. He is an ex. She learned by it. In my opinion focus on yourself and your studies. Wishing you the best

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Anonymous

You are living in Europe, your boyfriend is in Canada. You have seen him 2x in 2 years... He tells you a story about being scammed by someone in Canada and losing $7000... and now he wants you to send him money?

Sounds to me like you are the one being scammed! Do NOT SEND HIM MONEY! You will never see him or your money again. 

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